The amount of work going into this is undoubtedly a reflection of both who they are as people and amount of trauma involved, but even Steve's reaching a point where he's just too fucking exhausted to do it.

Maybe that's not the worst thing.

"You know how it was important to be sure I was getting something out of wiping the floor out of you? Same thing. I needed some contact to get back down. I like contact. You don't have to keep doing it if it's not something that's making you uncomfortable. The rest of it's probably just me overthinking it and feeling like an asshole for maybe forcing it. I don't want much of anything else to do that to you."